Catching up on life

 

Hi friends!

I haven’t done a “rambling” post in a while, and felt like today was a good day for one!

Let’s catch up on some random things…

Happy 14 years :)

Yesterday, my calendar reminded me that it was our 14th dating anniversary. Every year I can’t believe that another year has passed, and this year is no exception. I simply cannot believe it’s been 14 years. In the years since we first began our relationship, we have gotten married, moved 5 times, bought 3 houses (sold 2), and had plenty of adventures along the way! And through it all, he remains my favorite person. <3 Our 10 year wedding anniversary is coming up in December — goodness me, 10 years! Where has the time gone? I guess it’s true what they say, it really does fly when you’re having fun.

Apple picking

In other news, last weekend we went apple picking at Bishop’s Orchards here in Connecticut. The weather was perfection – sunny with that little bit of crisp in the air. This is only my second time going apple picking EVER! Crazy, right? My first time was last fall. Both times I have gone, I have been amazed at how many different types of apples there are. It’s fun trying out new-to-me varieties that I don’t normally see at the grocery store. I have to say though, my favorite type hands-down is still Honeycrisp! We came home with more than enough to last a while. I haven’t baked an apple pie in a while, and this is the perfect time to do just that!

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Book club

My book club is currently reading Swamplandia! by Karen Russell. I’m only about a third of the way through the book, but I am enjoying it so far. The tone is somewhat conversational, so it’s been an easy read thus far. Our previous book was Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood, which was of course much heavier by comparison. I haven’t seen the show yet, and am interested in watching it at some point soon. I love my book club – it’s so fun getting together to talk about books and drink wine. Speaking of wiiiine…

 

 

Ginger wine

I discovered Stone’s Ginger Wine recently, and seriously love it. It has quite a strong ginger flavor, so if you aren’t a ginger lover, you will probably want to stay away. It reminds me of Stoney Tangawizi, a delicious non-alcoholic ginger soda that I used to drink all the time in Kenya. I miss it! It’s funny the things you miss when you move away. When I lived in Kenya, I always had access to Stoney, but I never gave it second thought. And now 15 years later I suddenly miss it. Maybe that’s why I have such an affinity for the ginger wine – it conjures up all this nostalgia.

Anxiety

Lately I’ve been dealing with some anxiety. Here are some things that help me:

  1. Talking to Joel and other loved ones. It helps to know that those who close to me are so supportive. Just knowing that they will always be there for me is priceless. Joel is the first person I go to when I am feeling anxious, and he is always incredibly patient and supportive. I’m so grateful.
  2. Journaling. I have kept a journal since the 3rd grade. My very first journal had a light blue cover with painting of a lamb on the front. It also had a lock and a key! All these years later, I still have that journal, but the key is long gone. And you know what, over the years I have filled up many more journals! I find that writing is a really effective way for me to process through my thoughts.
  3. Running. Sometimes when I’m feeling anxious, it’s harder than usual to find the motivation to run. Other times, I can’t wait to get out the door to run. Regardless of how I feel before the run, I always feel at least a little bit better afterwards. Running may not totally remove the anxiety (or the source thereof), but it never fails gives me a needed boost. And ya know, sometimes that sense of accomplishment after a run feels like the only thing that saves the day from being a total bust.
  4. Getting outside. When I get lost in my anxiety bubble, it’s so easy to forget that there is an entire world outside of it. It might take some convincing, but when I finally get outside — as in, literally outdoors AND figuratively outside the anxiety bubble — it can be both a literal and figurative breath of fresh air! Sometimes even just a quick trip to the store, or a walk around the block can be a reminder that it’s not actually the end of the world. And then the day feels 10 times brighter.
  5. Get enough rest. Anxiety makes me toss and turn all night, leaving me exhausted by morning. I try to ease up on the gas when sleepless nights happen, and if at all possible, I try to get to bed early the following night. I’ve learned the hard way that insufficient sleep is a recipe for running-related injury, a compromised immune system, and all round misery.

 

 

I am sure there are plenty of other methods for coping with anxiety. It probably depends on the person, and what he or she may find soothing or calming. For example, one of my longtime friends also struggles with anxiety, and one of the ways she copes is through baking various yummy foods. She loves to bake (and is great at it!). When she bakes, it helps to relieve a lot of her stress. Another friend of mine has a ranch down in Texas, and whenever she is feeling stressed out, she spends time with her horses. I think each of us is pretty unique in how we deal with anxiety or stress. What is helpful to one person may not be to another. I would love to hear how you deal with anxiety!

Catch up on previous posts! Like these thoughts on rain, or this one about the tallest mountain in Africa, or this one on a few of my favorites!

Let’s catch up! What’s new on your end? How do you deal with anxiety?

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95 thoughts on “Catching up on life

    1. Time really has flown by! It’s crazy to think how fast its going… Thanks Maureen, i hope your day is amazing! 😊

  1. You’re right time does fly… first date with my wife was 17 March 1980, married in ‘87, and on our wedding anniversary this year I said “30 years – you’d get less for murder”….

    Anxiety is tough and I do think getting away from the specific circumstance and trying to press the ‘reset’ button helps.

    1. Haha! I love your 30 years remark! Anxiety really is a tough thing. I agree, minimizing exposure to triggers can help a lot. Gotta press that reset button! Thanks Steve, i hope your day is amazing! 😊

    1. Me too! I’m especially interested in trying out an apple crisp recipe with all these apples! :) Thanks Deryn, I hope you have an amazing day!

    1. What a small world! Bishops was such an awesome orchard! Thanks for stopping by jenna, I hope you have an awesome day! :)

    1. Thanks for the early anniversary wish, 10 years really is a long time! Thanks Shanika, I hope you have a wonderful day! :)

  2. I deal with anxiety as well and your ways of coping sound very similar to mine. It can be hard to deal with! Happy Dating Anniversary, you two have definitely been through a lot together and the fact that he is still your favorite person is fantastic!

  3. Congratulations on reaching the 14 year mark! Those apples looks yummy. I’m so glad you have found ways to successfully cope with your anxiety. Physical activity like the running you mentioned, is an excellent way.

    1. i totally agree! running has worked wonders for me. i feel so much more balanced when i’m running regularly. thanks for taking the time to stop by and read! i hope your day is amazing!

    1. Ginger wine is one of my favorite discoveries this year! I hope you have a chance to give it a try sometime soon! Thanks Jocelyn, I hope you have a wonderful day! :)

  4. I used to live on the East Coast and I miss fall over there! It’s so beautiful.

    As for anxiety, I’ve definitely been trying to tackle that this week too. It’s hard because, for me, anxiety usually doesn’t let me sleep. Running and meditating has helped, but I think the most important thing to remember is that anxiety’s greatest enemy is action. When I’m feeling anxious, I try to pinpoint the source of my worries and ask myself if there’s something I can do in that moment to take care of it. If not, then there is no use wasting the energy worrying about it.

    Hope that helps!

    1. That is such great advice! It is so true that anxiety’s greatest enemy is action. I love that. Thanks for the words of wisdom! I hope you have a lovely day!

  5. Congratulations on your anniversary! That ginger wine sounds amazing, right up my street! I wonder if we can get it here in the UK. I will investigate! Anxiety is such a personal journey isnt it. I meditate daily, have done for 15 years, and it really helps me control the anxious feelings that can rear their heads x

    1. I hope you’ll be able to find the ginger wine on your side of the pond! Yes anxiety is totally a personal journey. I am so glad to hear how much meditation has helped you. Thanks Kerry, i hope your day is amazing!

    1. Journaling is one of those things that really helps me to delve into n’t thoughts and get them out. Thanks Amber, i hope your day is wonderful!

    1. Let me know what you think of the ginger wine when you try it! Yes exercise helps me too! Thanks Pat, i hope you have a lovely day!

  6. Congratulations of your 14 years. Managing anxiety can be difficult. I try and do things that require all my focus so my brain can’t run around making trouble.

    1. Thank you! I can imagine that keeping busy would be helpful. Thsnks Gillie, i hope you have a lovely day!

  7. Congratulations on your 14th year!! That’s so amazing. I normally deal with anxiety by taking a nice drive in the mountains and just releasing my thoughts on whatever that is that is bothering me at the moment :)

    1. That sounds so beautiful and relaxing! I like that idea a lot. Thanks for dropping by, i hope your day is wonderful!

  8. Congratulations that is awesome!! I have problems with anxiety myself and I usually sooth it with cleaning. I know that sounds crazy, but I have a bit of an OCD about cleaning our house and how I like it done…lol

    1. One of my friends is the same way. Cleaning is a great productive activity. Thanks Maranda, i hope you have a lovely day!

    1. Handmaid’s Tale was thought-provoking and rather heavy. An interesting read. I haven’t seen the show yet either. i thought the book was very good. I hope you like it. Thanks Federika, i hope you have a great day!

    1. Yes! They aren’t complicated at all. Simple is great when you just need to clear your head. Thanks Sian, i hope you enjoy your day!

    1. Thank you Kiwi! I hope you’ll love the ginger wine! I appreciate your stopping by and reading. I hope you have a lovely day!

  9. So good to hear about what’s going on.. Well, I haven’t read the books you stated, but Handmaid’s tale in on the list! I’m currently reading John Green’s latest novel!! And, glad to know you have someone to talk to when it comes to anxiety! :)

    1. Thank you Aishwarya, i appreciate your taking the time to stop by and read. I hope you have a wonderful day!

    1. I guess we all have our own ways for dealing with anxiety and stress when it pops up. Thanks for stopping by Jessica, i hope you have a lovely day!

    1. thank you Lexie! that is so lovely of you. I appreciate your taking the time to stop by. I hope you have a wonderful day!

  10. We still have never been apple picking! It’s been over 90 degrees all week so I’m struggling to get into the fall spirit.

    1. yeah 90 degrees doesnt feel super fall-like, does it! i feel like apple picking is one of those things where once i go, i am totally in the fall mood! :) thanks Melanie, I hope you have a stellar day!

    1. i’m sure you’ll have an absolute blast Emman! it’s such a fun fall activity, and the best part is all the delicious apples :) thanks for taking the time to stop by, I hope you have an awesome day!

  11. I would love to join a book club but have never seen or heard of any near me. Happy 14th anniversary! Time flies when you are having fun

    1. I felt the same way about wanting to join a book club, and finally decided to start my own with a few of my girlfriends who like to read. it’s been such fun so far! we talk about books and drink wine once a month, it’s the best! Thanks for stopping by Anosa, I hope your day is amazing!

  12. Anxiety can creep up on anyone. I definitely notice it more when I don’t get enough sleep. Postpartum Anxiety is a major focus of my mommy blog. (PS I found you via twitter).

    1. Sleep is such a huge factor! When I’m not well rested, it makes me even more anxious and stressed out. I can’t imagine what postpartum anxiety must be like (along with that new baby sleeplessness too!). You’re amazing, Kayleigh!

    1. I agree, rambling really is one of the best parts of blogging! It’s nice to be able to ramble in a judgement free zone! Thanks Angela, i hope you have a wonderful day!

  13. Happy 14 year dating anniversary and almost 10 year wedding anniversary! Apple picking is always a great time to be had during the fall season :)

    1. Thank you Natalie! I agree, i love apple picking, its such a wholesome, family friendly activity! I appreciate your stopping by, have an amazing day!

  14. Happy 14 years! These are milestones to celebrate … truly. You have certainly have had a busy life together!

    Thank you for sharing your experience in dealing with anxiety; I share many of your strategies, and they do seem to work. Running and Writing, in particular are my favourites.

    Wishing you both a wonderful weekend ahead!

    1. Oh that’s so cool that you love to run and write too, i love finding others who share these things in common. I appreciate your stopping by, and hope you have an amazing day too! 😊

  15. Options 1-5 all the way for me too when I have anxiety. Oh! And some nice herb tea. I lay off alcohol and caffeine during bouts, since both tend to heighten the physical effects of anxiety.
    Happy date-versary!

    1. Is super smart to reduce alcohol & caffeine intake, i could totally see them making anxiety effects worse. Thanks for taking the time to stop by, i hope you have a lovely day!

    1. I agree, professional help can be three best way to proceed in many cases! Thanks for taking the time to stop by! I hope you have an amazing day!

  16. You know the old saying ‘Time flies when you’re having fun’ it’s true! Happy 14th Anniversary! Sorry you’ve been dealing with anxiety and I think it’s awesome for you to be honest. It’s still has such a stigma attached to it for being a very common issue. Wishing you the best!

    1. I totally agree, time really DOES fly when you’re having fun! The anxiety I could do without but I’m working on all those coping strategies. Thanks Megan, I hope you have a lovely day!

  17. I love to look back on “dating anniversary” as well. It is so crazy how much time goes by when you are with the right person seems like no time.

    1. I couldn’t agree more! You put it perfectly! I know we’ll be able to handle whatever life throws at us. Thanks for taking the time to stop by, I hope you have a stellar day!

    1. that is so sweet, thank you Jack! We had such a fun time apple-picking, and are now enjoying the delicious fruits of our labor haha :) thanks for stopping by, I hope you have a lovely day!

    1. Aw thank you claire! Warm tea is such a great thing for relaxation! I’ll be enjoying more tea especially now that we’re getting into the cold season. thanks for stopping by, I hope your day is lovely!

    1. music can be really soothing, i love this suggestion. thanks for stopping by Anchal, i hope you have an amazing day!

    1. Happy 3 years to you and your boyfriend, Jojo! Thanks for taking the time to stop by! Enjoy the rest of your day!

  18. Happy 14th Year Dating anniversary! You have come a long way and wishing you and your partner many more filled with health, good fortune and Love. As for anxiety don’t tackle it alone, find help and support from someone you can trust or as someone already suggested: music. The language of Love. Take care of yourself.
    xoxo

    1. Thank you Sandra, that’s really lovely. Yes i agree, tackling anxiety alone is not ideal. Thanks for stopping by, i hope you have an amazing day!

  19. Congrats on the 14 yrs since your first date. Anxiety is something I have been dealing with my whole life. I usually write in a journal, talk to a friend, or go for walks with my dog Cheyenne to calm down down. Sometimes it is nice just to take a hot bubble bath and sit in silence with a glass of wine too. Thanks for sharing your catch up and thoughts.

    1. Those sound like awesome strategies for dealing with anxiety! I wish we had a dog! Maybe one day we will adopt one. Thanks Rebecca, i hope you have an amazing day!

  20. Congrats on completing 14 years together. Time flies and we only feel it when it is passed! Wish you both a happy life together <3

    1. Aw thank you, that’s so sweet! I appreciate your taking the time to stop by and read! I hope you have a wonderful day!

    1. Its such a great way to enjoy nature and get some delicious fruit at the same time! I appreciate your stopping by, i hope you enjoy the east of your weekend!

    1. Honeycrisp are the best! I hope you’ll get to go apple picking this year! Thanks Chelsea, i hope your day is amazing!

  21. Happy Anniversary to you! Wishing you more years of bliss together! I have had anxiety lately too, because my grandson and husband fell sick at the same time – all because of the same virus. Weird thing is it only affected just the two of them. Two patients in the house, plus the cooking, the errands, the chores! Ugh. I am just relieved both are feeling better now.

    1. Oh I’m glad your husband and grandson are feeling better now! I appreciate your taking the time to stop by, Annemarie, i hope you have a wonderful day!

    1. Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed reading! Thanks for taking the time to stop by, I hope you have an amazing day!

  22. I also enjoy doing these catching up, summarizing posts sometimes. Congrats on your dating anniversary. We have been with our guys for nearly the same time! Dave and I met through online dating in December 2002, met in person in January 2003, and married in 2006. So we’re coming up on our 15th “first date” anniversary and our 12th anniversary in February. The ginger wine sounds amazing and your anxiety tips (aside from running) are some that I also try to implement.

    1. Congrats on your upcoming first date anniversary! I hope you’ll get you try the ginger wine, it’s delicious! I feel like different things work for my anxiety, depending on what’s going on. But talking to a loved one is consistently the one that works, and the one I turn to the most! Thanks for taking the time to stop by and read! I hope you enjoy the rest of your evening!

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